Lindsay writes:
My biggest problem as a freelancer is… loneliness.
I worked with a 25-strong team of talented young marine environmental scientists for 25 years. They challenged my every thought and decision along the way but I always felt proud and privileged to be a part of their professional development and their lives.
After selling out and completing my restraint of trade period, I set up my freelance business on my own. It is very hard to recreate the intense intellectual challenge of working with young scientists when one is working solo.
It is also hard/impossible to brain-storm methods, reports & solutions without the input of at least another brain. I’m of that age where I really ought to be feeling more relaxed about all this… but I’m not!
I’m not asking for an answer - just wanted to put it out there because there must be so many people who feel the same way as I do.
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How can you be less lonely as a freelancer?

Loneliness is a real issue for freelancers everywhere. Going for days at a time without seeing another human, particularly during busy periods when working from home, can be a real challenge.
According to a survey by Aldermore, almost 40% of freelancers say they have felt lonely since working for themselves.
The report reveals that loneliness is currently a real problem amongst the self-employed, with over a third (39%) of Brits, saying they have felt lonely since becoming their own boss. This is most common amongst millennials (25 – 34 year olds), with over half (54%) saying they have experienced a feeling of loneliness.
And loneliness is extremely damaging to your mental health. At Montfort, the digital marketing agency I run, we work with the Jo Cox Loneliness Commission and are all too aware of the downsides of loneliness.
So Lindsay’s questions is an important one - and something that all freelancers should think about. Even if you’re working in a group at the moment, things might change in the future.
Here are a few ideas for how to be less lonely as a freelancer.
1. Join Facebook Groups
I’m a member of several Facebook Groups and these are excellent places to make friends and chat with other freelancers. Even if you feel like a lonely freelancer, there are others just like you out there - there’s even a group I’m part of called The Lonely Freelancer!
Facebook Groups often act as a place to help each other out, post questions and share good stuff about freelancing in general - and they certainly help to make you feel a little less lonely.
Take a look at Freelance Heroes as well for another decent Facebook Group, but I’m sure there are plenty more out there. And if there’s not, why not start one for your area or freelance profession?
2. Join a coworking space
If virtual networking is not for you, why not find a coworking space near you?
Thanks to the likes of WeWork, there are coworking spaces popping up in cities and towns across the world, so it should be easy to find one near you.
Although it can be unproductive working in a coworking space, due to the increased noise levels and likelihood of interruptions throughout the day, it can be great working among other freelancers and small business who are building their own futures.
3. Meet other freelancers for coffee
If you prefer working from home, that still doesn’t mean you can’t get out of the house and meet other freelancers during the working day.
After all, if you can’t put down your tools for an hour during the middle of the day then you’re missing out on one of the main benefits of going freelance in the first place - flexibility.
And if might not even need to be another freelancer. Although it is nice talking shop, it might be a good idea to meet up someone outside of your usual line of work, such as a neighbour or a local parent who lives in the area.
Whoever it is, once you get out and take a break from work, you’ll come back feeling refreshed and with a new sense of energy to bring to the rest of your working day.
4. Make time for client calls and meetings
If you’re looking for company as a freelancer, you’ll almost certainly find comfort in you clients - whether you want to or not!
Having meetings with your clients — in person, by phone or by video conferencing — can help make you feel less lonely to and help fix what you could be missing from working in an office.
Don’t just stick to work chat when meeting or calling your clients. Ask them how their family are, what they did on the weekend, or if they’ve read anything worth reading recently.
These meetings and calls can help you feel less lonely, but being interested in what clients are up to outside of working hours will improve your relationship with them too.
5. Plan evening activities
If you’re stuck behind your desk all day, it makes sense to get out in the evenings.
Exercising and going to the gym is a great thing to do in the evening, as it’s a healthy way to get in both your social time from meeting other gym goers or going for a run with a friend - plus you get the added advantage of a healthier body and relaxed mind.
If you don’t fancy exercising, you could also start a hobby that means you to spend time with people outside of your freelance work. This hobby can give you with a fresh look at life and gives you social time without feeling like you have to be working for your freelance clients.
Or if you’re like me and live in then UK, then a few pints down the local pub is a good way to relax after a hard day freelancing. Just don’t have too many beers or the next working day will be more difficult and pretty unproductive!
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That’s just a few ideas for how to be less lonely as a freelancer.
But what about you? How do you ensure you are less lonely as a freelancer? Let me know in the comments below!

I enjoyed reading about your 2 week trip. I am going very soon
and the information was very useful, THANK YOU!
Glad you enjoyed - and have a great trip to Japan!
Thank you for this! I planned my two week itinerary around this.
Thanks, Stephen! How was your trip? Where did you go in your two weeks?
Thanks for such a great and informative write-up…especially the “Rest of Japan” notes. I have been trying to narrow down and pick and choose places for my first trip to Japan. I have been interested in Japan for a while and am a solo traveler, so this helps me with my planning for a trip in 2015.
That’s a great write up! I only did Kyoto for a week when I went to Japan - mostly temples, Arashiyama, and lots & lots of food. Can’t wait to go back. It was amazing. Next time I go, I’m taking your itinerary with me.
This is what happened on my crazy trip: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9I6Ku0tY9SM
Hey this was great! I’m currently wading through information on the web (OK,I won’t complain - it’s my favorite hobby), in order to plan a two-week visit to Japan. You included a lot of useful information plus a very realistic itinerary. Thanks!
Thanks, Linda! Definitely better to pack less in, but take in more of the places you do visit.
Let me know if you write about your trip 🙂
Hello Ben. Just to let you know that I came back from Japan yesterday, and I followed a lot of your advice! In fact, I even had a photocopy of your information with me (and dumped another one which was way too intensive). I pretty much followed the same itinerary, but because I had sixteen days I added a little more time in Kyoto and went to Kanazawa. After reflection, I took the JR pass for 14 days and used it until the last day, although I could almost have done as you did. I took your advice and went to a hotel in Ueno - and I really liked that neighborhood! Returning to Tokyo on my last three days (two nights) I stayed in a business hotel which was right in the fish market, so I had no excuse not to go see it - and I could go back to sleep for a bit at 6:00 am when they let us out.
I really loved Japan! In every way….it was just such a pleasure to walk around and discover. I’m a big fan of Buddhist (and Shinto) temple architecture - it just fascinates me - and I really got my fill of this. Sorry for my friends who have to see the photos! I had hesitated about going all the way to Hiroshima but I think it’s well worth it, and Miyajima was just beautiful.
I’m a Miyazaki (great animation) fan and on my last day, went to a museum called the Tokyo-Edo Open-Air Architectural Museum; they had a special exhibition of background paintings from the films. However, I discovered that this museum was really interesting in it’s own right - they actually moved houses and shops to this sight that you can’t see anywhere else in rebuilt Tokyo.
As far as keeping to a budget, because I live in France and was changing euros, I think it was rather favorable against the yen. I don’t know if that’s the same for other currencies. Japan overall was cheaper than France and I even did some clothes shopping to save money! I think a lot of money went into temple and museum visits, but that can be curbed on a tighter budget. And like you said, there is lots of inexpensive food available.
By choice, I travel solo at least once a year - and I do sometimes think of contributing to the sites specializing in solo travel (there’s even one for women who travel solo). However, I don’t know if there’s anything particular to say about solo travel in Japan. Perhaps people were more willing to help me? A few times, being a little lost, I just put on a lost face with my map in my hand, and people actually conducted me to the right bus stop or in the right direction. Don’t think the Japanese get the same treatment in Paris!
So thank you again for the information which I followed from the beginning and throughout my trip!
Did you stay in tokyo and take day trips out of tokyo?
Hey Jerel,
Yes, we stayed in Tokyo. Was a great experience.
We did a day trip to Nara - well worth it to see the deer and the giant Buddha!
This is very interesting and I enjoyed reading your experiences and where you went. May I ask, what was your budget like for the 2 week trip?
Thank you so much, really hopeful guides. I was planning for weeks to think of a route for my 2 week trip in japan but am thinking to do osaka - kyoto - tokyo. just worried how it would be like spending christmas in japan. heard they don’t really celebrate it
So how much did it cost you?
Hi John, this was a few years ago now, but I think it cost in the region of $1,500 per person per week - and that was on a budget. Thanks!
Thanks for the awesome post! Just curious, what’s the approximate budget you spent with this two-week itinerary? A range is much appreciated!
Hi KT, this was a few years ago now, but I think it cost in the region of $1,500 per person per week - and that was on a budget. Thanks!
Hi - I loved this post. Like the other replies, I’d really like to know WHAT the budget actually was that you did all this with? Can you provide the amount in USD $$?
Hi Kelsey, this was a few years ago now, but I think it cost in the region of $1,500 per person per week - and that was on a budget. Thanks!
Hi Ben, I would like to second the others on a range for what this trip costed you. Its hard to guage an accurate picture.
Thank you
Hello, this was a few years ago now, but I think it cost in the region of $1,500 per person per week - and that was on a budget. Thanks!
Triangle sushi thingy… Onigiri?
Yes, that’s it 😉
Hi I loved to details, but I’m just wondering how much would you need for the two weeks ?
Hello, this was a few years ago now, but I think it cost in the region of $1,500 per person per week - and that was on a budget. Thanks!
Hi Ben,
Is Mount Fiji included in the plan?
No, we didn’t make it to Mount Fuji but got a good view of it from the bullet train out of Tokyo!